“he cheated, & I still have a hard time trusting him…”
dear apricot,
I have been dating this guy for two years but we have been friends for 7 years. During these two years, he’s cheated on me but I forgave him, and now things are 100% better. But, even so, I still have a hard time trusting him. I think that my assumptions are preventing us from moving forward. Do I need to move on with my life? And if I decide to continue to stay in this relationship, how do I get over the hurt?
— anonymous.
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Anonymous,
I think you will always have a hard time trusting him. There will always be that voice in the back of your mind that incessantly worries about where he is, what he’s doing, & if he’s being honest with you. But be assured that that voice will quiet with time & healing… if you let it happen this way.
You just have to continue to keep moving forward, & don’t beat yourself up for still not being able to trust him fully. It’s absolutely natural that you are still struggling with trusting him. Continue to tell yourself that your feelings are rational. Accept those feelings as the way it’s g0ing to be for a while. By accepting those feelings & releasing them, you are moving forward. Just don’t dwell too much on those feelings.