“I’ve got a huge crush on my married (with kids) physical therapist…”

dear apricot,

So I have been seeing a physical therapist for a knee problem, and I have taken a major liking to him. I see him twice a week and can’t wait until we meet again. I’m 21, and he is 30.

Thing is, we flirt a lot, not like usual doctor and patient. He is always making jokes with me and we’re always laughing and having fun. We work at the same hospital together. Anyways, thing is, he is married and has babies, but is still flirting with me. I like him so much; we have A LOT of the same interests and hobbies. What’s even more weird is that after he flirts, he’ll say something like “I’m old enough to be your dad.” I feel like he wants me to know that he isn’t flirting or something. The other day, he mentioned out of nowhere that the divorce rate has gone up to about 70%, and that confused me. I can’t stop seeing him as a doctor because that would drive me nuts!

So what should I do?

— Smitten.

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Smitten,

I’m going to be 100% frank with you (& you are not going to like it):

You need to stop seeing this doctor. I don’t care if it “would drive you nuts”; I don’t care if he looks like Brad Pitt; I don’t care if he’s the best doctor in your area. You need to stop seeing him NOW.

It has nothing to do with his being 30, nor does it have anything to do with the fact that he is your doctor & you are his patient. It has EVERYTHING to do with the fact that he is married! With kids! This is absolutely inappropriate; there is no question about it. & you need to stop seeing him before anything else comes from this “friendship”

His comments — about the divorce rate, about “being old enough to be your father” — are probably no less than just comments, but you could be reading into them because of his flirtatious connotations in the past. Regardless, you can no longer make excuses for his behavior (&, lets face it, YOUR behavior, because you are flirting with a married man!) You simply need to find yourself a new physical therapist; preferably someone who is old enough to be your grandfather & completely professional.

I truly hope that you heed my advice, or at least think about what I’ve said, because nothing good will come out of this interesting situation of yours.

— apricot.

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