“all my boyfriend wants to do is make out with me!”

{photo courtesy of the8rgrl.}

dear apricot,

Currently I am in a relationship with a guy, and he is probably the sweetest guy I have ever met. He is my first boyfriend, so really I have no idea how things are supposed to work out. We’ve only been going out for three months, and lately I’ve been thinking that the only thing on this boy’s mind is “when will be the next time we’ll kiss?” rather than “when is the next time we can hang out and get to know each other?” I don’t want to be with someone who only wants to hang out with me so that we can make out. I don’t know whether I should wait and see if he’ll stop kissing me so much, or if I should just tell it to him how I feel. It’s gotten to the point where I don’t want to kiss him. Sometimes he wants to be alone with me so that all we do is kiss. This pattern of being alone and away from others is becoming predictable and repetitive. He really is a nice guy, we make a really cute couple, and it seems like we are perfect for each other. But I don’t know if I should hold on to him because of the good things, or just tell him upfront, “You need to stop kissing me.”

What should I do?

— Stumped Girlfriend.

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Stumped,

It sounds to me like this guy is overstepping his boundaries with you. No guy should ever make you feel like you have to avoid being alone with him because he might try to do something you don’t want to do. Until he knows what your personal limits are, he’ll continue to cross the line.

So have a heart to heart conversation with him. Let him know that you really like him as a person & that you enjoy his company, but when he starts being too forward with his affections, you get frustrated. Tell him how uncomfortable it makes you feel that he always wants to spend time alone with you, & let him know that you would really like it if you two could hang out more, rather than make out all the time. & if after you talk with him his forceful actions continue, maybe you two would be better off as friends. You both being such a cute couple & he being such a sweet guy shouldn’t matter if he’s moving too fast for your comfort.

So have a talk with him; be nice, but firm about what you want out of this relationship, & take it from there.

Good luck!

— apricot.

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