“we’ve been together for about 4 months; should we move in together?”
dear apricot,
I’ve been dating my boyfriend for almost 4 months now, and it has been the best 4 months of my life. I’m so happy, and he makes sure I’m happy. There has been talk of wanting to move in together. We have never been closer, we are insanely happy. Do you think I should trust my gut and do it? Or wait a bit?
— A Scared/Excited Girlfriend.
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Dear Scared/Excited Girlfriend,
First of all, congratulations on your relationship. From your note, it sounds like you are very happy and excited about your new partnership! That is wonderful. To start, I have a question for you, one that you mentioned yourself: should you wait a bit? I think that’s a question worth answering: what is the rush? Four months is still the very early stages of a relationship, and while it’s wonderful and exciting, it’s also very, very new. I understand wanting to spend every second with your boyfriend because things are going so well. If you can hold off for a bit, and really get to know one another, I’d urge you to do that. If this is going to be a long-term relationship, you have time on your side. Taking such a serious step early on can stop a good thing before it even gets started. Still, I understand the desire to be with the person you love, so if you are convinced that moving in together is the right choice, I would urge you to consider a few things…